The Nuances of sub drop

In conjunction with one of our recent classes at Dominus, I thought this would be a relevant post.

For many Doms and subs, sub Drop can still be a tricky aspect. One most return to a "normal" emotional state after reaching the highs brought on by a scene, including the most high of them all, subspace. This return to what one may call baseline, is typically what is referred to as sub drop.

sub drop is different for everyone who experiences it. The experience of it (good or bad), the duration, the intensity varies from one end of the spectrum to the other. Many experience a depressive and highly emotional state. Outbursts are common in conjunction with feelings of sadness, fear, irrationality, need. From personal experience, i like to included insecurity. The silliest things cause me question myself. I've also found that my negative feelings are interspersed with positive feelings - happiness, giddiness etc.

On a biological level the emotional roller coaster makes sense. Endorphins are likely still rushing through the body, triggered by the scene. As these levels normalize, they wreak havoc on the limbic system of emotions. Subs often feel a need to be comforted, to be close to their Dom/me. There's a level of safety that's craved - while they may not be in control of how they are feeling at that moment, their Dom/me is in control of them, and essentially the situation.

That brings up the next point. What is it that the Dom/me can do to comfort and care for their sub? The first step is aftercare. The moments after the scene, the bonding that occurs in this state can be more powerful then the scene itself. The sub is in a very vulnerable mindset and must trust and rely on their Dom/me to protect and guide them.

While sub drop can be confusing and scary, take it as a learning experience. What was it exactly that brought you to that high? How did you feel? When did you start experiencing your drop? What makes you feel better?

Remember that it is important to try and recognize these feeling for what they are and cope with them in a way that's best for you and your Dom/me.

posted with the permission of Master Darius