Time to talk?

Every day we slaves hear about communicating with our owners. About how Vital it is that we talk to them about every thing going on in our lives because they are not mind readers. They can't know what is going on unless we tell them. We are also taught how communication and time are important for building trust. These are both true, very true. Unfortunately, we forget that this also means the little things good and bad. We need to talk about the everyday nothings as well the huge issues. The more we talk the closer we grow.

If we have an issue, we bring it to you, the Dominant. You can't fix a problem if you don't know it's happening right? But what about just sitting and talking? Just getting to know each other as people? do we do that? Sadly, many of us do not. We trust our owners to manage everything about our lives when they have serious deficiencies in their knowledge of us. Simple things go unnoticed. We are creatures of habit. and those habits are reinforced daily with the things we do.

In RL, I use music to reflect my mood. many of us do. So what I'm listening to at any given time is a good idea of what I'm feeling. On SL, I still do it... but I sing the pertinent lines out in local chat. It's a simple thing really, and yet no Dominant has ever caught on to it. Why? Because I've never told them. Yes, I'm guilty of it too. How many of us have owners who can't tell you the quirks you have because they never take the time to get to know the little things? How many don't tell our owners these things because they are trivial?

We are often told to bring everything to our owners, and yet at the same time, our Owners are often very busy people. Ask for time to talk about an issue? Sure we do that. Schedule time to sit and talk about nothing at all? Rarely. We don't want to interrupt, or take time from something that's more important than the nothings we would talk about. And they are nothings, and yet still vastly important. How can we expect our owners to make informed choices for us if they know little about us as people?

Dominants, this goes for you too. We know you're busy. We know that what needs to be said is nothing at all. And so we put ourselves on hold waiting for you to have time. But we can't read minds either. You have to tell us when you have that time. We are all juggling RL families, and jobs, and SL expectations and commitments. So let us know when you have an hour or so free to talk to us about nothing at all.

While this is true on both sides for any D/s relationship. It is especially true for Poly ones. Dominants and submissives have even less time in these situations. And it's hard for anyone to know when there is time to just talk.

Dominants, let your subs know when you have time. Submissives let your Dominants know when you need to. Communication helps us form stronger bonds with each other. But not just communication for the big things. The little ones are just as important. It would be a shame to watch a relationship fall apart because he doesn't know your favorite color.......